Last night, I saw a post that read “Young people can now related to how much pain they received in their childhood and how it has limited them. I imagine how well awesome the next-generation will be, because we will train them differently from how we were trained”.
While I appreciate this school of thought, from the study of human behaviour, we know that humans make decisions based on the resources available to them. “We behave as we know to behave”.
Whatever limitation you may have experienced as a result of your upbringing, there is a high possibility that you will train your children “the same way you have been trained”.
To avoid reproducing the same results in your children, here are somethings you must do:
1. Show support for their ideas: At a very young age, children look up to their authority figures for validation. They read reactions and behaviors, they slowly develop a self belief thats based on how much you believe in them.
2. Expose them to necessary challenges: In a bid to protect our kids, we shield them from challenges that should build them. You are training them for battle ahead, it’s necessary that you expose them to little victories early enough.
3. Let them see your Confidence: Kids learn to handle situations the way “mummy and daddy” would. If they notice you to be very confident, they will adopt that.
4. Learn more about training kids: We will always behave as we know to behave. We will train our kids the way we were also trained. It’s necessary to gain more knowledge, exposure and experience for their sake.
The outcome of their life is your responsibility.
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